Sunday, October 19, 2014

Seeking Effective Emotional Abuse Counseling

By Patty Goff


When a person designs subjugate or control for another person by posing fear, verbal utterances, corporeal assault and humiliation is considered as an abuse. Emotional abuse counseling services assist individuals who have encountered such assaults. These strategies are essential in helping individuals who have experienced abuse such as criticism and verbal abuse and other behaviors like manipulation, refusal to be pleased and intimidation.

It is perceived as a strategy used in wearing out the self-concept, self-confidence and self-worth of people involved by rendering their emotions and perceptions invalid. The possible outcome from such situations are often similar despite the strategy employed such as consistent in intimidation, belittling and under guise advice, teaching or guidance. This results into loss of senses and personal values which often creates a scar that is long-lasting and deeper compared to physical abuse.

This kind of abuse can be categories into the following three dimensions. That is manifestation in abusive behavioral patterns such as denying, aggressive and minimizing

This can include a situation the authority through validating or judging the victim and undermining the equality and autonomy that is significant for a healthy relationship. This practice is common in communication between a parent and a child.

Aggressive abuse can takes a scenario whereby the abuser distinguishes him or her as assisting. For example, in their attempt to assist, they criticize, advising, analyzing, advising, offers solution and questioning sincerity of such assistance. In some situations these behaviors can be an attempt to belittle, control demean rather than offering help. This is often associated with I know it all attitude. The approach is creates unequal footing and inappropriate.

Another type of denying is withholding. This includes refuse to communicate, refusing to listen and emotionally retreating as a punishment. Psychologist often refers to this action as the quiet treatment. Countering is where the abuser perceives the recipient as extension to them as well as denies any viewpoints or feeling that differs from their own.

Minimizing is seen as minor form of denial by most psychologists. For example, telling the victims that they are sensitive, blowing things out of proportions and exaggerating. Meaning the victims interpretations, emotional perceptions and attitudes are incorrect and should not be depended on.

Trivializing occurs when a person or abuser argues that things said or done by the victims are inconsequential or not important. It is considered as a more subtle of minimization. Significantly, denying and minimizing can be damaging to those subjected to emotional abuse. It may result into lowering self esteem, creating conflict, invalidation of reality, feelings and experiences leading to individuals questioning as well as mistrusting their perceptions and emotions about experiences.




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