Sunday, May 29, 2011

Moving On

By Robert Baker


Loosing your beloved fur companion may be one of the most difficult experiences you may ever live through. Regardless of the reason it is very traumatic. This is especially true for single people either with or without family and the elderly.

Those of us who have lost a fur companion and try to find comfort and sympathy from someone who has never owned a pet will often find disappointment. Those of use who have experienced such a heart shattering moment will agree that non-pet owners simply can not understand the emotions.

We often hear; "it was just a cat, why don't get another one" or "it is nothing like loosing a child!" True, loosing your closest fur companion is not like loosing a child. But for many people their dearest, closest and most trusted friend is their fur buddy! Comparing is not fair, so why do so many of those non-pet owners have such thoughtless things to say? I do not have the answer for this question. However, I can make some helpful suggestions to help you cope with the loss.

Seeking out other pet owners may help. You know them, perhaps from the store you buy pet supplies, from the shelter/rescue you adopted your well loved animal or if you attend, your place of worship. Secondly, seek out "Pet Grief Support" groups. If you have access, (and here the public library may help), the internet is a great resource of information in finding one in your area. I have personally attended these meetings and made friends. All of which provided gave me unbelievable support!

So, how will you remember your loved one? Each of us has his or her particular way to grieve. Cremation with the ashes spread over an area or beautiful urn is one way. A burial with your close friends is another. Taking that photo album off the library shelves and turning it into a coffee table book is another. Finally, during those lonely nights alone, go outside and look up at the stars above. Here is their joy and soul, free to roam from their ill bodies. Yes, you will cry. But crying is good!




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