Ask any couple who've been married for a long time what kept their marriage intact. They are going to tell you that a marriage can survive just when there is a shared eagerness to give and take. The spirit of compromise should prevail. Nobody is perfect, and as the marriage ages, each partner begins to see more and more failings in the other that she may not have spotted earlier. The secret to success lies in accepting the failings and appreciating the strengths.
As life goes on, compromise becomes a daily phenomenon in successful marriages. When the sense of compromise is actually accepted and appreciate by both the partners, they start opening up to each other a little more than they used to.
Try to imagine what you would do if one day over the morning breakfast table your better half of five year suddenly came out with the confession that she's nuts for horses, and that she has been dreaming about owning her very own pony for a long time.
You are not certain if she is suggesting anything, and you straight away think about the golf clubs you've been eyeing for a while. While you do not know how much a pony will cost, you are moderately sure it isn't going to be cheap, and you do know that unlike golf clubs, a pony will be requiring some maintenance: daily upkeep, actually.
Now you can tell your wife to forget her pipe dream and thereby threaten five years of shared compromise, or you can set about it in a fashion that raises no major stress. You know she is going to debate, and you should be prepared for everything she is going to throw at you.
You ask your wife where she plans to stable the pony, because you are living in a tightly populated concrete jungle. She will probably tell you she is going to put up the pony at the pony trainer's 1 or 2 miles away. That's when you bring in the cost factor. It is going to cost to buy the horse, buy all of the riding accessories like a saddle, put the horse up, feed it and hire someone to keep it in sound health. Then there might be occasional vet and other medical costs.
Then there is the problem of going over to the stables every day driving a car; that suggests extra gas expenses. That also suggests more wear and tear, and consequently the requirement for more maintenance on the car.
Then the issue of allotting time to horse riding arises: if your other half is going to ride her horse every day, what happens to quality time with you? What will you do? The regular outings you both have been enjoying may now have to be stopped.
You have to be ready to man the ramparts, because your spouse is going to come at you hard. Women can be very insistent, and a girl who wants a pony can be especially tough to throw off. While you are arguing, you should also be planning on how you are going to manage both the pony and your golfing clubs, because sooner or later your spouse is going to ride you down, and you may as well make the very best of it!
As life goes on, compromise becomes a daily phenomenon in successful marriages. When the sense of compromise is actually accepted and appreciate by both the partners, they start opening up to each other a little more than they used to.
Try to imagine what you would do if one day over the morning breakfast table your better half of five year suddenly came out with the confession that she's nuts for horses, and that she has been dreaming about owning her very own pony for a long time.
You are not certain if she is suggesting anything, and you straight away think about the golf clubs you've been eyeing for a while. While you do not know how much a pony will cost, you are moderately sure it isn't going to be cheap, and you do know that unlike golf clubs, a pony will be requiring some maintenance: daily upkeep, actually.
Now you can tell your wife to forget her pipe dream and thereby threaten five years of shared compromise, or you can set about it in a fashion that raises no major stress. You know she is going to debate, and you should be prepared for everything she is going to throw at you.
You ask your wife where she plans to stable the pony, because you are living in a tightly populated concrete jungle. She will probably tell you she is going to put up the pony at the pony trainer's 1 or 2 miles away. That's when you bring in the cost factor. It is going to cost to buy the horse, buy all of the riding accessories like a saddle, put the horse up, feed it and hire someone to keep it in sound health. Then there might be occasional vet and other medical costs.
Then there is the problem of going over to the stables every day driving a car; that suggests extra gas expenses. That also suggests more wear and tear, and consequently the requirement for more maintenance on the car.
Then the issue of allotting time to horse riding arises: if your other half is going to ride her horse every day, what happens to quality time with you? What will you do? The regular outings you both have been enjoying may now have to be stopped.
You have to be ready to man the ramparts, because your spouse is going to come at you hard. Women can be very insistent, and a girl who wants a pony can be especially tough to throw off. While you are arguing, you should also be planning on how you are going to manage both the pony and your golfing clubs, because sooner or later your spouse is going to ride you down, and you may as well make the very best of it!
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extensive knowledge through her 100s of articles with other horse lovers, like all things about tack room
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