"Factor-x" believes you are in some kind of danger. When we were very young, possibly still at the toddler stage, we took on a certain self-belief. If the self-belief was negative, it was taken on as a survival mechanism against our environment. Factor-x is a child version of yourself - it is not the enemy.
Each of our Factor-x's wants to protect us from the world. But that child's mentality is that of, say, a three-year-old, wanting to protect the older person, you, by now possibly an adult, a grownup with children, or even a grandparent. That child obviously doesn't have the skills or maturity to do so, and is stuck in a figment of our imagination, not at all useful or helpful. In fact, quite the opposite. That child is, in most cases, steering us down paths we likely don't want to go down. Paths we don't even like.
It is best that we do not fight with that part of ourselves, but take it along with us on our journey, gently guiding it and ourselves along the way. It does not know any better at the moment.
Once we see our Factor-x in this light, it might be easier to navigate our life without letting it get in our way. By accompanying that part of ourselves with care and attention, we are in a position to heal that child: to heal our Factor-x. As we heal it, it will likely grow up and accompany us with less and less interference in the sense of wanting to protect us. But keep in mind it is an immature child wanting to protect us, and that we created it at the time from a figment of our imagination.
Factor-x can cause havoc, as if it were the enemy. It wants to be helpful and serve us, but it does not have the ability and therefore it refuses to allow us to be ourselves. It is counterproductive in its efforts and therefore we need to heal it. Humankind's collective Factor-x is ultimately the creator of the destruction we see around us in the world.
Each of our Factor-x's wants to protect us from the world. But that child's mentality is that of, say, a three-year-old, wanting to protect the older person, you, by now possibly an adult, a grownup with children, or even a grandparent. That child obviously doesn't have the skills or maturity to do so, and is stuck in a figment of our imagination, not at all useful or helpful. In fact, quite the opposite. That child is, in most cases, steering us down paths we likely don't want to go down. Paths we don't even like.
It is best that we do not fight with that part of ourselves, but take it along with us on our journey, gently guiding it and ourselves along the way. It does not know any better at the moment.
Once we see our Factor-x in this light, it might be easier to navigate our life without letting it get in our way. By accompanying that part of ourselves with care and attention, we are in a position to heal that child: to heal our Factor-x. As we heal it, it will likely grow up and accompany us with less and less interference in the sense of wanting to protect us. But keep in mind it is an immature child wanting to protect us, and that we created it at the time from a figment of our imagination.
Factor-x can cause havoc, as if it were the enemy. It wants to be helpful and serve us, but it does not have the ability and therefore it refuses to allow us to be ourselves. It is counterproductive in its efforts and therefore we need to heal it. Humankind's collective Factor-x is ultimately the creator of the destruction we see around us in the world.
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Emmanuel van der Meulen is a personal coach. He can assist you to understand more about healing the emotions. Request your free optimal life newsletter.
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